Mommy Be You

Is this just me, or do you ever feel like you wanna just quit on a marriage? Being a stay at home mom is rough and if you’re a mom you know, you have to clean, laundry, cooking, changing and feeding the kids. It may not seem a lot to you but three is a handful, don’t get me wrong, I love my kids to death and I would do anything for them. I just don’t see why my partner won’t help me out. Yes, I get it working a 10hr shift each day is draining but being a stay at home mom is a lot too.

I grew up in a Mexican household, and I’m that women who take care of everyone, so when my husband comes home I want him to relax. I know he’s had a long day at work, so I try not to barge him with demands, but at the same time I’m exhausted too. Iv been with the kids from the time they get up to the time they go to sleep and by the end of the night I’m drained, and then I go to sleep to start all over again. But my husband thinks that being a stay at home mom is easy, and it’s not, it drains me mentally and physically.

I do so much for my kids and especially my husband, but my husband seems to think that since he provides for us financially that he does a lot. When I feel that yes you provide me financially, but you also provide me for all my needs. I’m just getting to the point where if I’m doing everything, then why do I need a partner? I love my husband very much and care a lot about him, but how can I love someone who doesn’t help me? It’s sad because I want to avoid leaving him, but at the same time, I also have to think about my self-care.

I recently found out that I’ve been having heart pain, and it’s basically just pain around my heart, and it can be from high blood pressure, anxiety, and stress etc. Iv been struggling with that here and there, so is it bad to just ask or not even ask, just help me. That’s all I want, it doesn’t feel like 50/50 it feels like 30/90, and I don’t know how much longer I can put up with it. I’m just tired and depress cause my other half doesn’t seem to understand and it’s frustrating. For the first time I’m asking for marriage advice cause being married for almost 5 years doesn’t compare to other marriages haha.

Quote: Husband and Wives are designed to complete each other. When the man is weak, his wife is strong; when she stumbles, he is there to pick her up. Life is easier when two hearts and minds are committed to working together to face the challenges of the day. – Carry Chapman